Yes, but the JW"s I still talk to are not very "good JW's". They loved it! I loved it! NMKA
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Do You Know any JW's Who Saw Avatar?
by sammielee24 injust curious.
i know there was some issue amongst some religious orgs about their flock going to see this movie so i just wondered if anyone knows of a jw who did go and see it.. sammieswife.
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Newly Exiting JW's ( Last 5 years ) How are you Doing in Life? Let Us Know
by flipper inconsidering the fact we've had so many newbies here i thought it would be good to just open it up to you folks to see how life is going for you since you exited the witnesses ?
it's hard many times to move on- however with lots of ex-witnesses on the board here who have been through similar experiences - perhaps those of us who have been out awhile can give you someideas on how to move on in your post jw life to make it a little easier .
so fire away newbies and recently exited jw 's.
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Flipper, it has been just a little over 2 years since we abruptly stopped attending meetings. My children are overjoyed and wonder what took mom and dad so long, which I guess is a very good sign, obviously they didn't get in full cult mind set. They were not baptised and there were many issues we were not forcing on them like pioneering and various other wacky youth book topics. We are trying to start making memories of birthday parties and prom dates. I feel an emptiness when I see friends picture albums of first Halloween and birthdays. Better late than never.
The issues with family are difficult, we are generational JW's, close minded and all live very near. A conversation with one of them can be so depressing and guilt inducing that it effects me for days. I can intellectual set myself free but they can somehow just cause an emotional tail spin. The elders have attempted to meet with us and have dropped by many times and we have been able to avoid. Now the pestering has become predictable like around CO visit and the memorial.
We are absolutely overjoyed that very good friends are fading also, to be able to talk to old friends that have had the exact same experiences that we have had is indescribable. My husband says "sometimes I just have to pinch myself, because life is so much better"!
Purplesofa's insights were great, this journey is not a straight line, there are ups downs and blips on the screen and it's different for every individual, family and circumstance. I wish everyone the best on their journey! NMKA
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How much texting is reasonable for kids?
by moshe inour daughter is going into 6th grade this year and it seems she just started texting last month.
six months ago she rarely talked on the phone and now our home phone rings all day long.
today, she ran the battery down on our cordless phone and it died in the middle of my wife's phone call to her sister.
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We just went to the unlimited plan for my son that is exactly the same age (going in to sixth) after last months phone bill . It just started all of a sudden, he just texts all the time!
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10 Spiritually Transmitted Diseases
by BabaYaga invery interesting article in the huffington post.. 10 spiritually transmitted diseasesmariana caplan, ph.d.. june 15, 2010 08:00 am.
it is a jungle out there, and it is no less true about spiritual life than any other aspect of life.
do we really think that just because someone has been meditating for five years, or doing 10 years of yoga practice, that they will be any less neurotic than the next person?
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That is great, I am going to print for some of my "on the way out" friends. I recognized all the spiritual STDs in the organization. Thanks! NMKA
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Love quilts! I can't even sew a button on though, so I have never tried to make one. I love to look for old ones at auctions and flea markets. Just found a gorgeous one for my room. I Like the one you made with all bright green that is so popular now. NMKA
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Standing up for myself, a lonely stand
by troubled mind ini have learned in my life that i am the only one i can trust to stand up for myself .. many times i wished others would have 'had my back', like when i was seven and my favorite teacher committed wrongful contact with my class....we didn't know the term pedofile back then , and children were not taken serious when they made complaints about teachers .
i wished my mom had been more protective and saved me from some ugly situations .
i knew at 10 yrs of age that wasn't going to be the case .
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TM, I just told my husband this evening that if I didn't have him to talk this crap through with I think I would have went crazy the last two years. I feel like you that I am at a turning point and I may be writing a letter soon also. Just can't stand all the constant reminders of the sickness that I was part of for most of my life, it's worth loosing my pathetic family to be rid of it all.
Finding yourself is no easy task for a true blue JW. No real childhood to discover yourself play sports, a musical instrument, meet people or go to college. When you leave the organization it is as if you are left with nothing. All I have (thank God) are the things they told me not to do, have a family and get a career. That is why they want you to have nothing, so you won't leave! Hope you patch things up with your husband soon, sometimes people just aren't in the same place yet. He may intellectually understand but still has a visceral response to the fact that you may be DF'ed that fear and control lingers, hopefully he will get up to speed soon! Would be happy to talk, if you want to PM me, sounds like we are in the same place. NMKA
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What happens when a elderly dub is put into a care home?
by highdose inspeaking from my experiance i have seen no less than 10 elderly jw's put into old age care homes and promptly forgotten about!.
no visits from their "loving shepards" no vists from their spritual family.
they were left to rot out of sight out of mind.
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There was one older sister that was in a nursing home because her JW family all moved to another state. Some other old ladies came and got her for the memorial (on a cold rainy evening) she fell on the way out, broke her hip, declined mentally and is now on the dementia unit. NMKA
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The Significance of Raymond Victor Franz
by AllTimeJeff inthe significance of raymond franz.
in the light of the passing of raymond franz this week, it is clear from the reaction that many were affected by the deeds of this man.
while he was called gentle by those who knew him (for the record, i never got to meet him personally) his reputation preceded him both in the ex jehovah's witness community, and still to this day at the world headquarters of jehovah's witnesses.. while his writings were indeed fair and reasonable, (i challenge anyone to read his books and find bitterness associated with him toward his former peers) i think it would be a mistake to remember ray franz as somewhat of a gentle, doting old man.
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Amen, Jeff. I have a friend who is ordering CoC, I can't wait for her to get the information but most of all to hear the tone it is written in. It's almost like you can tell what kind of man he was by looking at his picture. Beautiful words, thank you Jeff. NMKA
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I don't think you can really really get it unless you have lived it. I try to explain things to "worldly" friends and they just don't get all the rules and why I did it for so long. That's why this site is so popular. NMKA
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FED UP WITH IT ALL !
by billie jean inhi, i haven't used this for a long time, due to the feeling of not needing to.
i've been getting on with life, fine, for some time now.
so been out 10 years, parents and other family still in.. well i guess i'm just asking how you cope, really, my family are becoming worse with me, and my son, (who has autism), little by little, and just the general putting the jw life before everything else, including me, my child, life in general, simple things and keeping us at arms length, it's really hard, as i have a relative trying to dig dirt on me, spreading it round the family in order to try and cause more upset for me.. so just a simple question, on how you've all coped in this situation.. thanks .
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Hi Billie, I know how you feel, it is like the ultimate rejection. I expected friendships to change but didn't really expect the withdraw of parents and in laws, especially from the children to the extreme that it has been!
Since I can't change my parents and other extended family members. I've tried to change my attitude. I view them as the pathetic brainwashed people that they are. My parents have missed out on their grandchildren finally getting a life, sporting events, band concerts, parties, birthdays, prom and graduation. How sad, it really is their loss. NMKA